Lacing In Love: Rewire Your Past - Change Your Future

The Lacing Technique - A New Technique for Healing Love’s Wounds

By: Carl and Kenya Stevens

Book Released in Paperback October 21, 2008

Introduction

He won’t talk to me, look at me, or love me right now!

She gets so emotional – I just can’t take the crying and whining anymore!

He won’t open up to me, he goes into a cave – he won’t tell me what I did wrong.

She won’t be happy cooking, cleaning or looking after the children like a REAL woman.

I can’t stand HIM!

She needs to have her head checked out!

WE GIVE UP!

Most people believe that relationships are difficult, many have chosen to simply be alone rather than navigate the rough waters of lasting love. In fact, many believe that my husband and I are pretty crazy for writing this book. We make odd declarations of love to one another like ‘We are ONE’, ‘We are Mirrors of one another’, and ‘Nothing you could ever do or say will I take personally’. We find joy when we experience challenges in our relationship. From a simple disagreement to an all out physical confrontation, we know that there is beauty in the moment. Who in the world finds such BLISS in relating to others? Well, we do! Through our relationship, we have discovered ourselves! We developed a Technique to aide other couples called The Lacing Technique. It’s fun and easy! Read on!

Sneak Peek - Change Your Man

Introduction to Change Your Man - Book Released September 2008

By : Kenya K Stevens - Enya K - Hakashamut - JujuMama - www.jujumama.com

OK. I have a confession to make. For many years I behaved very badly in my marriage. I was controlling, spoiled, immature, needy, and even violent. Not only did I behave badly, but I was actually - deep inside - afraid to let go of my disruptive, disagreeable behaviors. I felt as though I had access to power only through the forceful behaviors that felt natural for me. I did not want to accept my role as nurturer, mother, and wife. The traditional, domestic female archetypes seemed weak and powerless. I did not want to be vulnerable or sweet to my husband. I was afraid he’d take advantage of that. I preferred the strong, willful, and direct approach. Seizing each opportunity to proclaim sovereignty and control; I unwittingly became the “man” of the house.

Being Vulnerable is EN VOUGE

article by Kenya Stevens

Vulnerable Defined

1 : capable of being physically or emotionally wounded

2 : open to attack or damage : assailable <vulnerable to criticism

3 : liable to increased penalties but entitled to increased bonuses after winning a game in contract bridge

So Ladies…does this definition of vulnerable make you want to open up to a man and let your guard down? Oh yes! Let’s just get serious - the concept of being vulnerable just doesn’t have a positive connotation in Western culture? Now does it?

What is a Blog?

Entry for January 31, 2007

What in the world is a blog - I mean where did the word come from? I asked my friend today about this blogging business and he told me that it is like a journal of sorts that you write in to just share thoughts with whoever is listening. I like this idea of speaking and writing on a website in journal form. I have so many journals from my life, maybe it’s time to begin sharing some of the amazing things that have happened to me in my life.A blog is a great place to share.

I will want to introduce myself of course. I feel it proper and due. My name is Kenya Stone-Stevens, but most know me as Hakashamut. That is pronounced Haa-Khaa-Shaa-Moot. I received this name from a dear friend of mine 12 years ago. It means - she who comes to know unity.